Welcome to my writing website, My Plexus.
The word “plexus” is defined in medicine as an intertwined network of arteries, veins, lymphatic vessels, and nerves. In a broader sense, it is an interconnection of unlike items, as used in a business or a sports “complex.”
Our lives are a plexus on many levels: occupations, family roles, civic and church responsibilities, hobbies and interest, and so on. Some of the roles and duties we fulfill, we did not choose. We were asked or just happened to end up there. Sometimes we have been coerced. I remember becoming a new physician in a new community and quickly feeling like I was being stretched in four different directions. I felt like medicine, family, church, and community each wanted 100% of me. I remember expressing the feeling of being placed on a rack.
Many of us are not good at saying “no.” We were taught to go the second mile. If asked for our coat, we should give our shirt as well. In 1992, Cloud and Townsend published BOUNDARIES. It was life changing for me. Here, two Christian psychologists explained the biblical basis for having boundaries in our lives, i.e. how to say “no.”
The Plexus Principle is the positive corollary to Boundaries, i.e. how to say “yes.” How do we select our roles, our plexus? By chance or by choosing? A very wise pastor’s wife once told me, “Isn’t it amazing that God gives us an interest in areas where He has gifted us.” I had never thought about it that way before.
But isn’t it exciting to think that we should chose, with God’s leading, our roles and responsibilities, hobbies and interests – our plexus. And even more exciting, that these choices can work together for a purpose in our lives. They make us unique. They give meaning to our lives. They make life an adventure, rather than torture. Starting with the example above, of feeling like being stretched on an instrument of torture, the rack, The Plexus Principle states that we should symbolically snip those bonds that tie us to the rack. And we should tie those bonds (ropes) together into a plexus, a hammock, that we can rest in comfortably.
My work in progress, with a working title of TRILLIUM TANGLE, THE PLEXUS PRINCIPLE, has an underlying theme of connectedness. Over the next year or so, we’ll explore some of those topics. I hope you will join me.